The Women in my Life

17 May 2009 2 Comments

by cydonia1978 in Thoughts Tags: Friends

I’ve noticed for a while now the lack of women in my life. Ever since I was a kid I seemed to get along with boys better than girls. However, I always seemed to have at least one girlfriend I was close to. Who this was changed over the years as people moved away, moved back, or moved on, but there was always at least one girl.

This continued throughout high school and into my younger adult years. There was always at least one girl who was there for me through thick-and-thin. That one person who was like a sister (and being an only child as I am, the only person in that role in my life).

Now that’s changed a bit. I still have two women in my life who are my close friends and a handful of others who are also good friends, but things are different. One of the women who is closest to me, who would always be there for me, is physically very far away from me and has been for almost a year. She’s teaching English and studying karate in Japan! This is very wonderful for her. The other woman who is there for me is distant only in mind as she has her own life to deal with right now. We are still there for each other, but not as much as we used to be.

The other women in my life who I consider friends are also physically absent. Another one is touring Japan (though she’s due back soon I believe), one is studying/working in Hawaii, and another is constantly traveling for her work.

Besides my mom, whom I have always been very close to, there are no women in the same town as me that I spend time with on any regular basis. Having always had at least one woman to talk to about guys, to go shopping with, to generally just hang out with whenever, it seems odd to me to reflect on this.

Of course, a big reason for this change besides people traveling is the fact that I am now married. That’s no reason to not have a girlfriend (read: friend that is girl), but it certainly does keep me busy. My husband is also my best friend and I feel no longing for a woman to keep company with. I do miss a little of what two women can share, though. And although my husband will take me out shopping (and even have some great advice if we go clothes-shopping), it’s just a tad different with a girl.

Maybe I’m missing the estrogen in my life. I don’t know. It’s just something to reflect on at this time in my life. Perhaps once I have my first child I will connect with other mothers and wives that way.

And as a side-note to my girlfriends who are out there roaming the world and working on their personal lives: I miss you, I hope all is well always, and can’t wait for visits!! *hugs*